My Guy Deserted Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i am asking you to hear my story and please help me to solve my problem..here is my story:
i am a girl from egypt..i live in alexandria but i moved with my parents 3 years ago to hurghada..a year ago..i knew a guy and i loved him true love..he loved me too..we dreamed about being together forever..his words were so sweet and true..we spent months seeing each other and talking on the phone,he promised and swear that he will love me forever and that he will never leave me
then a day came and he had to travel to cairo for his exams..after two weeks he began to change..he treated me in a bad way..he began to be so cold..he told me words that really hurt my feelings and then he told me(sorry i don't love you any more)..i couldn't stand that..i cried all day and night..i tried every thing to get him back..i tried to call and cry asking him to be back..i tried to make him remember our sweet dreams and memories..i tried not to call at all..i tried to make him jealous..i tried every thing but none of these worked with him..then a day came and i found out that i have a tomour as a result of great sadness..and when i told him that he said(well,it is not my problem)...
then a day came and he said (ok..i will be your boyfriend again but if you really want me you will see alot of bad things with me) i told him(i love you and i am ready to do anything for you even if it is pain for me butthat's only if you really love me and in the end you will be with me)he said(ok deal)...but after that that i found that he is not treating me as a lover..he never call to ask about me...he never says i miss u..he never says i love u..and when i ask him(do you love me?)he fights with me saying(don't ask me this question again..i don't want to talk about this)..
every one says that he loves another girl in cairo...i can't stand thinking about that..i can't stand thinking about him with another girl..i am going crazy..i wish i would die..it's better to spend my life without him...please help me..what can i do to make him love me again..i know he doesn't deserve my love but i really want him..please help me!
Every one of us has had to face sadness in love at one point or another in our lives. I know it is incredibly painful. Think of all the sad songs and stories and movies written about a love affair that goes poorly. It's one of the most common situations in all of humanity, and it hurts a lot.
I know it won't be easy, but one of THE most important things you need to learn in life is that this is a normal part of life. Yes, it hurts, just like having a baby hurts. But the hurt DOES go away, and you become even stronger, you go forward, and you do find someone who IS worthy of your time, love and affection. This guy who you care about was a lesson for you, something to help you learn about what a guy SHOULD be. He was a hurdle in your life for you to overcome. It'll be hard to do it, but I have faith that you can do it, because all of us have done it.
Every one of us deserves a partner in our life who loves us, cares for us, supports us. Sometimes we're lucky and find that partner on our very first try. But that is VERY, very rare. Most of the time we're required to go through several relationships and learn important lessons before we run into that great partner. That is what you just went through.
I have tons of tips on handling a breakup here -
Think of it as recovering from any other injury or illness. It'll hurt, it'll take time. But believe me, when you recover you will be SO much happier when you are with a guy who loves you and cares for you. Close your eyes and imagine a man who holds your hand, tells you you are the most special person in the world and who really cares about you. That guy is waiting for you. But first you must get through this hurdle. So treat yourself well, care for yourself and let yourself heal.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com