Long Distance Relationship is too much. How do I end it?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been with this guy for a year now only online. I live in the U.S.A. and him in England. We have never met eachother in real life. We have been REALLY close and had even planned out our futures. He is extreamly obsessive over me and has too many problems and I can't deal with it anymore. Along with the long distance is killing me.
Also I've met this guy of whom I met in middle school and we have been rekindling our friendship since he moved away 8 years ago and is now back. And we have really fallen for eachother. And he makes me really happy. He knows I have someone else and that I'm trying to end it.
Everytime I try to end it with the guy I'm with he goes on about how much time we've had together and how much I mean to him, how I'm the best thing in his life and each time it stops me from breaking up with him. I don't know what to do.
I really don't know how to breakup with him without feeling guilty.
One reason you are feeling guilty is because your England friend is purposely making you feel that way so he can keep you. That is perhaps understandable of him, but it is not a very friendly or caring way for him to behave.
Tell him you like him a lot but sometimes things don't work out and that online relationships are often like that.
You gave him a year of your life and a lot of support. You can't go on doing this the rest of your life. He will feel bad and you will be guilty about that but as long as you assure him that you will always remember him and the good times you had then you have the right to move on with a minimum of guilt.
Also, be honest with him and tell him you have found someone new and need to experience a face-to-face relationship which is important to your development as a person.
Hope this goes well with you. George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com