I am Married and Dating a Married Woman need major Help
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Ok so where do I start my wife cheated on me four years ago and I told her we wouldn't divorce and soon after she left for training and has been home maybe a total of a year out of the last four years. I started talking with a woman who was in similar situation about 19 months and we began hanging out all the time and talking. We would talk and text all day and in the evenings if one or both were gone we would spend the evenings together. We were pretty much attached to the hip. We have talked about what each other want in a relationship and even read the book Love and Respect together. I have talked to my wife about a divorce and she has told her husband to leave. About a week ago she stopped talking in the evening and she sent me a message that she is dealing issues with her family about her marriage and I have found out that they seperated as well. During this time we would talk all day but in the evening time she would be silent and tell me she told me she needs some time. This is someone I want in my life forever. Should I give her the time or am I wasting my time?
You should ask her that question. She knows how she feels about you and will tell you clearly if you are persistent. Tell her you want her in your life forever so she knows where you stand.
Ask for more details about why she stopped talking in the evening so you will better understand her situation.
It is too soon to be thinking whether you are wasting your time. You are just freaked out by the suddenly changed circumstances. Let things work their way out and you will know the answer. Meanwhile continue to be supportive. This is not an easy time for her (or for you either.)
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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