Why is things still like this?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi its me again last time you told me to be all romantic and try to discuss things without fighting well I've been doing everything from flowers, calling, txting..... well I decided to see if i dont call if she would do it and guess what she did it but in the afternoon I asked her why shes calling me untill now why she didnt do it in the morning she said you didnt do it either...... that answer really frustrated me but i held it down again and told her that both sides have to show interest and just bcoz i didnt do it means she has to do the same that i think that its a childish behavior of her part well she got angry and started saying that she didnt want to talk with me(which i told her again grow up and be like an adult) well she told me that in the past when she used to do those kind of things i never appreciated them and now that im doing it i want her to appreciate them isnt that like a way to take revenge on me bcoz of the past?
Now i really dont know what to do anymore If i dont ask her to come at my house she will not do it on her own if i dont call she wont, she comes online on her FB and i cant see her on msn she wont even chat or anything with me she wont do anything on her own now what should i do i've been a romantic guy tryid to make up for my own errors and still she still behaving to me like this should i just keep trying or should i break the relationship?
When i ask her if she wants to end the relation she says no she wants to try again so why isnt she putting any efforts on her side?? I just dont know anymore what to do.
Thnx for helping me out again
It doesn't sound like you like her very much. Maybe this is a game to you.
Stop telling her she is childish and to act like an adult. She will just dislike you for saying that. Stop getting so frustrated and upset. If you really like her you would take the time to think things over and try to figure out her point of view. Take the time to talk with her lovingly and figure out (without insults) how you BOTH feel about things. Until you do this, buying flowers etc is going to get you nowhere. She probably liked the flowers at first but then realized you were still not romantic on a conversational level.
No woman is going to put up with an angry boyfriend. Stop judging everything she does and asking her if she wants to break up. How is that going to get you anywhere?
You took my advice about buying flowers, but you are coming up short on the affectionate, loving, understanding parts of being a boyfriend. Think about it.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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