How Can I REALLY Get Him Back?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Person
I have been out with this boy before and we had something really special he is not an emotional person but qwhen i dumped him he cried and we have both been seeing other people(this is 3 years later) but when i dumped him i wasn't sure about it i was really confused and going through a rough time and it was honestly the worst thing i have ever done but i want him back and i have told him that it's been 3 years and i have not got over him and he took it well but i know who he is interested in and it is not me. I asked him if there was a chance of me and him ever getting back together and he said honestly i dont think so. Should i move on? But the problem is i love him so much noone else i been out with kisses me the same or makes me feel that extra bit special or a bit more happy. to be honest i just want my old life back. but should i move on and if so how can i do so? and If not what should i do then?
You seem to be saying you can't move on after three years. Was he by chance your first love? Sometimes it can be very difficult to shake the first love mostly because the first time you experience love there are very powerful emotional and physical sensations which are unique because you never felt them before so strongly.
My advice is to move on. So far you haven't been able to, but ask yourself whether you will spend the rest of your life pining over him, getting married, having children but still thinking of him. If this feeling for him persists you should ask your parents for counseling with a professional therapist. You don't want your life ruined over something that could be fixed.
Meanwhile, keep up your efforts to find another guy who will help you forget your love. As you age, you may feel different and the problem will solve itself.
Sorry you are in this situation.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com