I asked her out, she said no, but she's still very friendly
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
im a freshman in highschool and i did write u bdfore. im am really confused though because there is this girl i really like and i did ask her out and got rejected. after that though we're still friends and as i said before she sad shes sad when i dont say hi and she finds all sorts of ways to get close to me for instance once she was sitting on a bench with her friends(which i know also) and she said somethin like "oh u guys are so rude" not to me but to her other friends and so she moved over closer to me. you even said that she was giving me signs that she liike me but i am sooo confused since i did already ask her out (even though it has been quite a while)and i dont know what to do!
A lot of high schoolers have been told by their parents that they can't date until they are XX years old. So it easily could be that she CAN'T go out with you. Or it could be that she's shy and whatever you asked her to do - movies or dinner or something - seemed scary to her. But she obviously is interested in you.
So think up something non-threatening that her parents can't say no to. Find out what her hobbies are and see if something related to one could be done after school. You want this to be a casual fun thing that FRIENDS can do. The aim is to move into a strong friendship before anything else. You don't just say "wanna go out." You say, "want to look through this great book I just got on Pintos" (if she's a horse fan) and offer to bring it to sit and read with her after school.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com