I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT 2 DO!! PLEASE HELP
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
OKAY THIS GUY I MET OFF OF MYSPACE HE WANTED 2 BE MY FRIEND SO I ADDED HIM... COUPLE OF DAYS LATER HE STARTED 2 CHAT WIT ME AND I NOTICE THAT HE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP WHEN I CHECKED HIS PAGE...WE BOTH CONNECTED WITH EACH OTHER ON A PERSONAL LEVEL AND FRIENDLY LEVEL SO WE EXCHANGED NUMBERS AND WE STARTED TALKIN HE EXPRESSED TO ME PLENTY OF PERSONAL THINGS LIKE WITH HIMSELF AND HIS FAMILY..WE WOULD TALK ON THE PHONE FROM 12:15 AM TO 8:30 IN THE MORNING!!! IM WASNT LYING WHEN I SAID THAT OR IT WOULD BE SOME NITES WE WOULD SLEEP ON THE PHONE TOGETHER...WE GOT A LIL BIT MORE CLOSER AND AGAIN I KNOW HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND SO I KEPT MY COOL UNTIL HE BUST OUT WIT THE L-WORD AND WE ONLY BEEN TALKIN FOR ABOUT A WEEK AND HALF AND IM NOT GOING TO LIE I REALLY CARE ABOUT HIM AND I ACTUALLY TOLD HIM I LOVE HIM BAK...I MEAN HE REALLY CARES ABOUT ME AND WOULD DITCH HIS OWN GIRLFRIEND FOR ME BUT THE PROBLEM IS HE DOESNT WANT 2 LEAVE HER AND HE DOESNT WANT TO LOSE WAT WE GOT GOING OWN EITHER AND I'VE TOLD HIM I DONT WANT 2 BE THE SIDE CHICK AND HE COMES OUT AND SAY, HE WOULDNT TREAT ME LIKE DAT, HE WOULD TREAT ME AS IF I WAS HIS GIRLFRIEND AND HE ALWAYS SAIDS TO ME THAT HE WANTS TO MAKE ME HAPPY AND THAT HE WOULD NEVER TREAT ME LIKE MY PAST EX BOYFRIENDS AND THAT HE WOULD NEVER HURT ME...SO I TOLD HIM IF HE SO CALLED LOVE ME HE WOULD BREAK-UP WITH HIS GIRL AND OF COURSE HE COULDN'T DO IT BECAUSE HE LOVE HER AND HE LOVES ME.. HE DOESNT WANT TO LOSE THE BOTH OF US... SO I BACK AWAY FROM THE SITUATION AND PULLED ''JUST BE FRIENDS'' MOVE BUT THATS NOT WORKING OUT BECAUSE WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE HAVE THESE FEELINGS THAT WILL NOT GO AWAY AND MY FRIENDS THINK IM STUPID FOR FALLING IN LOVE WITH A DUDE IN A WEEK AND WHO HAS A GIRLFRIEND BUT I REALLY DONT KNOW WAT 2 DO. WE BOTH HAVE THESE FEELINGS BUT HE HAS THE SAME FEELINGS WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND THAT HE WILL NOT LET GO. I MEAN I WANNA BE WITH HIM BUT THIS IS HOLDING ME BACK...please help me...(sorri if its 2 long lol)
It isn't a good idea to make decisions after such a sort amount of time.
Give it another month and see how you feel (and how he feels). Sometimes these things come and go.
If he can love two girls, maybe he can love another also. Maybe there will be three of you he loves in another week or so. Who knows?
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com