How to do it?Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i've been with this guy for a year, we had the most beautiful relationship ever we love each other soo mcuh, we made plans for future we even decided when and where to get married, but suddenly i dont feel anything anymore,i just became indifferent,i cannot break up with him bcz he has lots of issues in his life and i dont want to be another issue, i knw i love him but i ont knw what happened, i gave myself lots of chances to try to go back to my feelings but nothing happened i want to break up but i cant be the reason of his misery what shoul i do? how should i do it? i need urgetn help
Breaking up is not easy to do as you know.
You can love someone and not want to hurt them but if you don't have the feelings for him then you are not doing him a favor by dragging this out.
Everyone has issues in their life so you can't use that as a reason to not let him know the truth. In his heart, he probably knows that it is over for you. You can't be that good of an actor and since he cares for you he should be able to sense that something isn't right.
Do the right thing and have an honest conversation with him and tell him that your feelings are indifferent and you want to be a friend but no longer a girlfriend. It will be difficult to do this, but you must do it for both of you.
Ask yourself, how long do you think you want to continue living a lie? And, worse yet, lying to him by withholding the truth? Do you want to do this for another month, a year, or longer? Set a time limit for yourself to figure out a good way to explain it to him. It will set you both free to find a relationship that is good for both of you.
A good way to start the conversation is to tell him you love him very much and that what you need to say doesn't mean you don't love him. In fact, you are putting yourself through some pain by telling him and that is a sign of love.
Good luck! George
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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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