Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi there. As you probably can expect there's a girl I like. And what I'd like to really know is does she like me back. I'm the kind of guy who isn't sure if someone likes me even if that someone said it to my face. Well not really that stupid, but close. I always have to be 100% sure about the girl's feelings before I'm ready to act.
I've had two big crushes already in my life, but I screwed them both up for being too passive or for being too obsessed. Now I'm very keen to be neither of them. This time I even like the girl for her personality and her interests. Not for her looks.
Well, enough of this rubbish and to the point. I've known her for two years already. Even though we play in same band, I never paid much attention to her until this summer.
We were in a same party and suddenly she came to me. The other girls just talked about Madonnas and Backstreet Boys, so she thought I'd talk about different kind of music. Well, she was right. Our musical taste was pretty much the same, and we talked for two hours about great bands we both like. That was the first time heart started to beat for her.
Few weeks later our band had a gig, and after the gig we met again in a bar (with few of her friends). There wasn't much hearts beetween us that night, but the next day she added me to her MSN list. Since that day every time I have logged in she has started to chat with me. We don't talk much in school apart from the same class we have because we both have different friends and I don't think my friends are anything I would introduce to a girl (hehe). But when we talk, we have no problems talking to each other.
Well ok, today I haven't been in MSN for few days and she sent me a message, where she asked how I'm doing. Could all this mean something? Or is she just being friendly like she's to every one of her friends? Well, at least it's not very common for my other friends to talk that much in MSN and send a message just before I go to sleep. Well, me and my friends might be just unsocial animals. Oh yeah, and by the way I live in Finland, if that helps to explain my sociality.
Thanks for reading my question (and maybe for answering too, if you do answer). :D
To find out the answer to your questions, you will have to start having closer conversations with this friend. You will also need to let her know that you like her more than a friend. In other words, it is up to you to start the romance machine and you can't wait for her to do it.
Take her out to a nice dinner and introduce the idea of getting more closer to her. Make sure she knows you like her for her personality and not just her body. I am assuming she doesn't have a boyfriend already. As a normal girl, she will naturally want a boyfriend to give her affection and to let her know that she is special to him.
Stop thinking so much about this and start doing something. Otherwise, she may lose interest in you. In case you haven't noticed, she is quite interested in you. She shows you this by her activities on MSN.
Don't waste anymore time before taking action.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com