He's hot and he's cold
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I wrote to u b4. My ex and I timed out for 3mths b4 and in e end we still broke up. Said he dont want to make me wait it isnt fair. But once in a while, he'll drop me sms, especially when I'm really sick, he'll come ask how I'm doing. But other than that, we hardly talk. He told his friends he don't think he's ready for a rs and wants to be alone for a while.
Just few days ago, I smsed him for a favour. He didnt reply so I got upset and told him that all this talk abt feeling bad for hurting me seems like bullsh*t when he couldnt even bother to reply my sms. Within mins he replied saying he's sorry n called me dear. It has been mths since he called me that. And said he'll get the favour done asap and let me know. When I told him I can never get angry, juz little tngs from him i forgive him so readily, i shld stop this cz im really sick of myself. He replied tt its 6am in the morng, telling me not to tink so much. slp tight n nitez. I din reply after that. In my heart I feel he's been either out partying with his frens all night till 6am, so when the dear word was used, it was probably bcz he's high on alcohol rather than he sincerely meant it...
I know its stupid to be waiting for him after mths, but I've tried moving on but I just couldnt make myself walk away from this. His msn nick still has our anniversary date, I don't understand why he still does that when he initiated the breakup.. He'll juz pop bk into my life once in a while n den disappear al over agn. I really don't know what he wans..
What can I do?
I'm sorry you are in this situation.
In my opinion, you have wasted enough time on this guy. He is not doing anything good for you. You need a guy who will give you the love and attention that you deserve and that will make you feel good about yourself. You need someone who cares for you and is thinking of you most of the time. Someone who will hug you and kiss you and make your love feelings arise. Spend some time seeing other fellows until you find someone who pleases you in a special way and makes you forget the ex who is just making you miserable.
There are hundreds of guys looking for a woman just like you and want to spend their time and energies on you. Make yourself available whenever you meet an attractive guy and soon you will find one (or maybe two) who make you feel good about life and yourself. You deserve attention from men while you are choosing the best one. Be happy and get back into the swing of things. You are young and should be enjoying everything life has to offer... including a lot of romance.
Don't waste your life. It's the only one you get. Go for it!
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com