A Really Confusing Situation, What To Do..?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Well, im a 16 year old girl living in london. When i was abot 7 i had a friend. for 5 years i never saw him again but 3 yers ago there was some sort of carnival and i came across him. he had shcanged SO MUCH and i fancied him but it wasnt anything serious.
Anyways, in january i saw him again at a wedding, he had grown so much and looked really attractive. i was dating his friend who he was hanging out with so i had a chance to talk to him. After that day i knew i had strong feelings towards him and i broke up with my boyfriend.
i managed to get through to the boy i like through online messaging and i started talking to him, i found out he had beein dating a girl for 6 months so i didnt tell him enything to ruin his happiness. but after about 2 months he found out and told me hes happy with his girl and that only if they break up would he think to ask me out.
after some time his girlfriend found out and told him to stop talkin to me. we stopped talkin but i saw him twice week at a course i was at. this added to my feelings and got them stronger. now its been 9 months that ive loved him with no return. now ive decided to move n in life and im back with my ex (not his friend) my friends like me nd him being together but when im with him i think about the one i love.
what chould i do? please help me or im going to go mad :(
P.S the boy i love is a year younger than me and my present boyfriend is a year older than me.
I'm sorry you are in this situation.
It could be worse though... you have a boyfriend even though you prefer the other guy. Imagine how bad you would feel if you had nobody to share your time and affection with. Think of all the girls who are with nobody and can only dream about having someone.
That doesn't solve your problem, but you do know where you stand with the other guy and there is the possibility that he will separate from his girlfriend and come together with you if he realizes that you are the one for him. Even though you aren't supposed to be communicating with him, drop him a note every month or so just asking him how he is doing. Don't discuss romance so his girlfriend can't complain. There is nothing wrong with being friends with him if you don't contact him too often. You never know what might happen and you two might be together some day.
Obviously, you can't come between the two of them. That wouldn't be right. But you can take small steps to pave the way for might be down the path for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com