co worker dumping me for an other co worker
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I know its the stumpiest thing to do, but i can not help but fallen in love with my co worker, we dated for over a year, at first he was talking about moving in together and kids, slowly those talk died off. Then the distance start to show. I've asked him about it, and he apologized, saying that he got lazy and will do better, it got better for a week then worse. I know I can be very harsh when I am upset so i backed off with confronting him, i left it up to him, so as not to pressured him.
We got a new co worker few mth back, they seem to hit it off, she was very nice to him, buying him stuff and he said he want to thank her so return her kindness with presents too. I expressed my concern and he assure me that they are just friends.
last week, he didn't call, didn't write, so Sunday i got up the nerve and mailed him asking him out to his favorite park, he called back to say he was sick all weekend and didnt want to pass it on to me.
Monday at work, i found out from this girl that he went drinking with her and her friends. He was too sick to see me, but not too sick to go drinking with her. I also found out the text each other almost regularly.
I let him know that i know he lied to me, he gave a very unrealistic excuse. I am very confused, at one moment he talk like nothing is wrong, the next he completely ignores me, his "friend ship" with this girl did not change. We haven't talk about it yet, i am too afraid to ask for a talk. I have to see them together every day and its killing me. I still love him, i want the talk, i want some answers, but every one is telling me to just move on, but i cant and i cant leave my job. What should i do?
Well, you can't move on until you talk it out with him and make it clear to him that you still care for him. You couldn't live with yourself if you just dropped him cold.
So, suggest a nice dinner out and talk about your relationship. It is better for you to know now if his feelings have changed. Don't let him off the hook easily. Be very clear that you still love him. If you don't, it would make it easy for him to leave.
Hope this works out for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com