Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have a friend who im very concerned about called "Caddy". She has this boyfriend who shes "in love" with and they've been dating for two years. All of our friends hate him and keep telling maddie to break up with him. He is a real jerk, once i came up to him and asked him nicely "where is Caddy," and he said "how the he11 should i kno." And I once heard him say i dont care what Caddy thinks, then i went and told Caddy and when she asked him he lied and said i was lying, and she believed him over me. Im really scared for her because he is very possessive of her and Caddy keeps saying hes mean because we bug him, which i admit we did. Im really scared that he might take advantage of her but her mom tells her to "follow her heart" but Im scared for her. The one time they broke up he said fine now i can go kill my self and do drugs, which im sure he already does. Caddy then thought it was her fault and got back together with him. What should I do?
You should make sure you are the best friend possible to Caddy. Be there for her whenever she needs someone to talk with.
As far as her boyfriend goes, you should back off. He doesn't seem *that* bad and maybe from her point of view he is good for her. Don't take too seriously his outbursts about drugs, etc. Caddy can help him deal with those problems.
And, you and your friends should give him a chance and see if he can act better when you treat him better. Everyone has feelings.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com