why can't we get along?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my bf and i have been talking for almost 2 years and have been dating and living together for less than a year, when we first met i was also talking to another guy but i didn't tell my current bf, and he found out later. we worked through that and are still together, at first that drew us closer to each other and we decided to get pregnant, now here i am 6 1/2 months pregnant and all we do is argue. he constantly holds that over my head and nitpicks all the time causing arguements. he will come home from work and argue with me because the house isn't spotless, or any other piddly reason he can come up with. i don't feel like he loves me anymore. when i try to turn him on he usually tells me he is too tired to have sex or he will tune all his attention to the tv and completly ignore me. i don't know where to go from here, we are both expecting our first child and i feel like he regrets getting me pregnant even though it was planned, in fact the last arguement we had he told me he wished i wasn't having his child. we had talked about getting married before the child was born, but the last time it was brought up he told me it would be a cold day in hell when he married me. i feel like he hates me and i am just at my witts end trying to figure out how to please him anymore.
I'm sorry you are in this situation.
He needs to hear the truth from you but not in an argumentative fashion. If he tries to make a fight out of it then tell him you don't want to fight but to talk. It might take some time to get him to calm down but it would be worth it.
You might as well face up to his unwillingness to get married and his disappointment with the upcoming birth. Although you never know... he may be very happy to be a father once the child is born. Perhaps you should mention that arguing is bad for the baby because arguing causes hormones to enter the blood stream which also includes the baby.
I hope this turns out well for you! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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