I don't know what I should do
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Before my husband and I got married I told him i was not raedy for marriage. He cried and told me to please help him for the sake of the child I was pregnant with and for him to get his landed in the country. I told him No and he proceeded to get my mother involved and so on. After we got married, it was like a living hell. he treated me so bad and he always disrespects and puts me down,making me feel worthless.he always neglects me because he is alwayson the phone with his friends or whoever. The other day I found a message on his phone from this girl who I spoke to and who was able to describe my husband to me. My husband denied it and said it was his friends girlfriend and that his friend gave the girl his number. i have kicked my husband out several times before that occasion but he refused to leave. I felt fed up the other night because my husband left the house late at night and said he was going with one of his friends but it turned he went out with the friend who supposedly gave the girl his number who made me and him get into a big fight.Anyways, I went out with my ex-boyfriend and i slept with him. I am not the type of person to this. i did it because he hurt me so bad and the anger I felt towards him is unbearable. My husband forgave me and is now trying to be different and it's like I am not interested in making it work with him anymore. I feel like I just don't want him to touch me. And the scary thing is I have no regret for what I had done. He told my family and friend and my family no longer wants to talk to me. My question to u is what should I do? i have two kids and my husband threatened to kill himself if i go. Should I stay or should i go?
Sorry you are in this situation.
A good approach to solving your problem is to go with your husband to a marriage counselor. This may help your marriage. But more important, it will show your husband and your family that you are willing to try to work it out. Even if you think there is one percent of a chance of changing him, you should at least try it. (Not to mention it might be good for the kids.)
Think also about what a divorce would mean. Financial troubles, family troubles, children troubles, living arrangement troubles and others. So, divorce is not always the best way out.
So, you really should give marriage counseling a chance. If nothing else, it will show that you tried and didn't just blow off your marriage.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com