Problems i have? or am i the Problem?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I'm 23 and always START to get a guy but with in seconds lose them. for i am not a highly sexual person a virgin. once a guy knows that they will want me, but then i shall not want to have sex and 'BAM!!!' they are gone. Guess i am just scared maybe...?
I recently got a boyfriend and he is staying all ok with everything (a bit fast)and i have gotten so much farther than i ever have before with a bf. first time i have ever gotten to fingering and on etc etc. The thing is he wants to go on farther but this is were i stop when it comes to full Sex, for many reasons. but i won't go into All that other than that i have medical reasons i am scared to become pregnant and all, Seizures daily wich i am scared will cause him to not like me and scare/freak him out.
I just don't know what to do about him probably Fearing seizures i have? not going all the way as of full Sex? and i'm scared he just wants me for my Virginity as most guys tend to?
.....I'm scared! don't know what i'm doing or to do!
If you haven't done so already have a long talk with whoever is treating your seizures. Explain your fear of pregnancy and having seizures in front of a boyfriend. He can help you understand if there are real risks with pregnancy. Also he might suggest that you explain your condition to your boyfriends so they are aware. That's what I suggest.
Are you planning to live like this the rest of your life? If so, that is your choice. But if you want to get married someday you need to talk with your doctors and get a reality check.
As far as a guy wanting you *just* for your virginity you have to get to know the guy for a longer time. You will find that almost all guys your age do want sex but you need to find out if that's all they want.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com