Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi George thx for your advice. I was the one who asked advice for my friend who date a guy who lost his wife 6-7 months ago, the guy has a child, and the guy left her after she gave him everything. You asked her to keep still waiting for the guy (you said: Your friend should give him space to grieve before pursuing him any further. She may discover that he will begin to appreciate her for her nice gestures.)
How come? She resigned her job for the sake of that guy and now she is dumped and the guy ignored her totally, scolded her, and made her cried a lot. I can’.t bear to see her mysery but she won’.t believe me at all when I asked her to leave that guy. The guy now disappear.
You said: She has strong feelings which need to be acknowledged.…..George….what do you mean? Pleaseeee kindly help….I think a jerk will never appreciate a nice gesture..
The only part of my answer to your earlier question that you didn't quote was: "You might want to reduce your influence on your friend."
Your friend is intelligent and cares about her own life. If her relationship is going nowhere she will soon realize it. You should not intrude in her life so much. She has strong feelings which you should acknowledge.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com