help my friend

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Dear George

My friend (27) met this guy, he is a widow, 34 yrs old, has one child, his wife passed away around 7 months ago. Stupidly, she was so eager to accept him just because she loves his child so much (she never ever met his child, only by photo). My friend gave whatever she has for this guy, sacrificing her saving account, and even she quits her job for the sake of moving to the town where that guy and his child lives. Now, the guy dumped her and blamed her for something she did not do, I know he looked for excuses to break up with my friend. When my friend contacted him, he got angry and scolded her with rude words.

The stupid things, my friend still want to help that rude jerk guy. She sent a lot stuff for his child because she loves the child so much but that guy never bother to understand all sacrifices that my friend made for him and his child.

Please reply me with possible advices to show to my friend so that she can stop contacting that guy, and forgetting him. He doesn’.t worth to be loved, for me, he does not worth to stay alive too!!! Advice
It is quite possible that the "rude jerk guy" is just having trouble getting over his wife's death. For many people it takes at least a year before the feelings start to diminish.

Your friend should give him space to grieve before pursuing him any further. She may discover that he will begin to appreciate her for her nice gestures.

You might want to reduce your influence on your friend. She has strong feelings which need to be acknowledged. Let some time pass and see what happens.

Good luck! George

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