Should I send him a Letter?

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I hope I am not wasting anyone's time with this question, and if I am, I am sorry.
Well, I am 17 and I have known a 33-year-old-man for a little over 3 years. He has been a very good friend to me, and has always helped me in times of hardships. I have entrusted him with secrets, and he with me, and we have always respected each others opinions. He talks to me about his daily life, and has given meaningful little presents to me many times. He is single, though he used to be married, and we correspond through the e-mail. Our friendship is very unique for people of our age difference, and he appreciates it very much. He is in no way using me or suggesting anything of a mature nature - we are simply great friends who are able to understand each other perfectly.

He has not told me his exact address per say, and I have never asked him for it, but he has told me a lot about where he lives. I discovered his address by "detective" means, and it matches the area he has willingly described to me.

My question is, should I send him a letter?
I am not psychic, and therefore I do not know how he will react, but I am sure it would not be a bad reaction. He does care a lot about me.

All I really want out of this is to make him happy and give him the opportunity to forget all his troubles for a day. I know that I would be really happy if received a letter from him.

Thank you. Advice
You are communicating by email with this guy already.

There is no great reason for you to write him a letter. He might interpret in in the wrong manner.

You are 17 and you should wait until you are 18 before you take an active role with a 33 year old. You are not mature enough to make the right decisions. Many people older than you are also not ready to make good decisions.

You should be dating local boys and learning about the real live personality of another guy. The guy you are talking with is almost twice your age. Of course, you know that but think real hard about what kind of man would write to a 17 year old. Do you honestly think you are that special that such an older man (a normal man that is) would take an interest in you.

Something is wrong with this guy and you should leave him alone.

Good luck! George

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