I cannot believe this just happened
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I started talking to a girl online about 4 weeks ago..I posted an ad on Craigslist, to test whats out there. Five of about 20 responses caught my eye but one seemed extra intriguing..She claimed she could have written my post , that it was just like her and she hoped I would respond
Well over the next week the emails "lured me in"..We had everything in common and were writing novels to one another...After a few days she started commenting on how "great" I was , that she couldnt wait everyday for my next email and I started to feel the same way. We clicked..So after a week I suggested we talk on the phone , so we did..We hit it off immedietly..We were talking hours each day opening up to one another..We would text back and forth each day..Now her texts/emails comments on the phone were pretty intense to where I saw she wanted this to go to the next level.."You are wonderful" " I am sooo lucky to have found you" "You should never let you go Im the best g/f.".etc etc.
If I could print out every email and text and have taped all the stuff she said to me you would say she was obcessed..I on the otherhand was falling for her slowly..I enjoyed every second we spoke..
We became GREAT FRIENDS ..
I couldnt believe this was happening..I told her alot of personal stuff that I havent told anyone..So after about 9 days of talking I suggested we finally meet..We made plans for this past weekend, but we both had last Thurs off so we pushed it up to Wed...
From that point the convos/text and emails got even more intense..The point where it was decided that after we saw each other it was b/f-g/f talk time..She was planning on staying over and we had basically determined this holiday weekend we were going to spend most of the time together and she was soo excited and wouldnt shut up about it..
The first text of that day was "you are going to be with your baby tonight , my prince, hugs, kisses xoxo " Before I end this I want to point out that for the first 12 years of her lfe (she is 30 now) she lived two blocks from where I lived...She didnt have the best childhood there, but she has a great family now and seemed so "together"...
So we finally see each other, get through the initial nerves..In my apt she plays with my dog we are talking fine , and then we have our first kiss which was a great one...We ordered food...In the middle of us eating, she starts to have a panic attack..She got really weird and then she said she had to leave..So I walk her to her car she heads home..She texts me she is home ok and thats it...
I waited for her to contact me and finally the next evening I get 3 texts..One saying it wasnt me , it was being close 2 that apt and she was depressed all day" The next one " I miss you and I dont know what to do" 3rd "im sorry im a weirdo...I sent her an email telling her she needed to face this fear and that I would help her but that I didnt want her to freak out 4 months down the road again....I didnt get a response so i followed up and checked on her..
Finally the next day she came back with an email breaking things off citing the location of my apt and that she needs "help"...I tried calling , texting and another email to talk to me, b/c in all honesty I cared for here and didnt want her to walk away and I felt that I deserved a call....
To wind this down I finally got an text telling me to stop the texts and an email that told me to delete her # , that it was only 2 weeks and she is moving on and good bye..
Are you kidding me ?NOW I FEEL LIKE THE CRAZY ONE...And def stupid...She said all along that we are on the level of someone who dated for months and that she would have told anyone that asked her that she wasnt single ??
I do feel abandoned and I wanted to know if that would be a natural feeling even after just 2 weeks ?...She bombarded me with all those feelings and I got caught off guard.....Is she just crazy ? Or am I crazy ? I had a break up after 5 years that didnt smack me in the face like this..Here today gone tomorrow..I miss her friendship but now its all gone, I got the message loud and clear and Im not contacting her ever again...
Have you ever heard of something like this ? Do you think that its a possibilty this hurt and confusion even from a short relationship can affect someone long term ?
No I don't think this will affect you long term.
There is obviously something wrong with her and she can't deal with it. Maybe it's the apartment thing... maybe something else.
Put it behind you and forget it as a bad, strange experience. These things happen. Start looking for someone new.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com