Urgent help! Plsss..
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i just broke up with my bf of 2 1/2 yrs exactly 5 days from now. im 22 and he's 23. In the last month, we've been on and off and he will keep on saying that he's changed, he's not him anymore but after 2 days he will call me and says he misses me, but this time, we didnt argue about anything and suddenly did not call me for the past 5 days and I did the same, we both never heard anything from each other but I went to his house yesterday to pick up my clothes and he's not there and i sent him a last text saying how selfish he was for not ending our relationship properly, its not like im gona stop and and beg him to stay, NO!
But to be honest with you, I want him back soo bad, i keep crying every night, I feel alone although im around with people. Im just so used to being next to him. I want him back but I want him to make up his mind like its either ALL-OR-NOTHING ( when I say all, that doesn't mean marriage and stuff like that).
I want him back but I want to give him a lesson but im too scared that if I make it hard for him, he'll just leave it and wont bother about coming back to me. (I know thats dumb!)
If he calls me saying he wanted to see me? What step should I do?
He always does that and I always keep on accepting him, but i realized i need to make it a bit hard this time.
This question is just what if he calls me and ask me to get back with him? How could I explain to me that I want him to make up his mind. its etiher all or nothing. Plss help..
If he calls and wants to get back together, you will have to make up your mind whether you want to risk your relationship or perhaps solidify it.
That means you need to explain to him that you feel very uncomfortable not knowing what he is thinking. Don't make a demand of him to make a choice. Just state how you feel. Tell him that you would prefer it if he could make up his mind about you. That should not offend him, but make him think about how he feels.
If he feels strongly for you he will choose you. If he doesn't feel strongly he will choose leaving. You will be better off for knowing which it is.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com