I do not know if its a signal or not...
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I knew this girl, wenny. She is my best buddy's cousin. She is 2 years older than me. i am born 1979 she is 1977. I just got out of a bad relationship 7 months ago where the girl cheated on me and she just too got out of a relationship 7 months ago because it is not working out. I met her and i felt something for her about 3 weeks ago. So i got her blackberry pin and she gave it to me and we started bb (blackberry messaging) each other almost everyday. two weeks ago, i got her number but rarely calls her because sometimes she is busy and stuff. we went clubbing but always in a big group. We danced together and both of us were drunk and we were to the point of hugging each other in club (no more than that). last week, i decided to tell her i liked her. She was like "we need to know each other more, i am happy as i am now, i am afraid of how things are going to turn out, i afraid of being ur rebound girl, i dont want to try and then jeopardize ur friendship with my cousin" after that i sensed (i might be oversensitive), she started to distance away from me. less bb reply, less call picked up. then 4 nights ago, i ask her, are u afraid and she said yes. we made a deal where if i promise to be a normal friend, then she too promised to be not afraid. I have never went out with her just the two of us all this time. 2 nights ago, we were discussing about our drinking problems and we made a bet toeach other. if she drank even a sip of alcohol this weekend, then she would have to go on a dinner date with me on sunday. if i drank even a sip of alcohol this weekend, then i would stop wearing flowery shirts. its a quite stupid bet. Then, yesterday, her last bb was 1657 hour until now, there was no reply from any of my bb and her phone was never pick up.
A lot of guys is after her and a lot of my friends told me to work hard to get her. however, some friends of mine who are girls told me that she is playing me as a spare tire.
What should i do? would a girl change her mind from do not like someone to liking someone? or its a one time thing? please help. should i go on or should i just give up and save myself the heartache? thanks. btw, both of us are libras.
Thank you for your help beforehand
Based on all you said, my advice is to give up and, as you said, save yourself the heartache.
If she had gone through with the bet and went out to dinner with you then there might be a chance. But she has made it clear that she is not interested in you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com