keeping a friendship and not falling for him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I recently met this incredible guy who has helped me through so many difficulties. Now he is a problem, because this guy has a girlfriend. Although we went out to dinner and games together (always one on one and never met his girlfriend), and it seemed innocent, he said he is still learning alot about me and this thing between us may even turn into something more than friendship.
I am not a girlfriend stealer, and just wanted this to be strictly friendship thing, but everytime we are together it is so magical and the conversations are so deep and meaningful that it gets me confused how we really feel about eachother. He also said he could fall for me, he doesn't know.
My other friends and family told me to stop seeing this guy because they said a good guy wouldn't do this. But I don't want to lose this friendship and I don't want him to cheat on his girlfriend either. Now I am thinking is he leading me on?
What do I do? Am I thinking too much? Maybe I should just chill and let it be?
Thank you so much.
Discuss this openly and honestly with this guy and see where it leads. Relationships break apart all the time and many are because of another person who comes into the picture.
Make it clear to him that you will not move to a higher level unless he explains what is going on to his girlfriend. If they decide to break up then he is yours for the taking.
If he is honorable enough to talk frankly with his girlfriend then he isn't that bad. Some relationships just can't last and often it takes the catalyst of another person to bring it about.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com