When is a Friend Not a Friend? When she steals your guys ...

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I do not know how to deal with my best freinds' behavior anymore? Everytime I show interest in a guy or like him. She starts flirting with them non stop and ends up liking him and she usually gets them. This really isn't fair, I want to beat her at her own game and for once get the guy I want, not see her with him and be the third wheel? Help please...

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OK first, this is NOT friend behavior. A friend is someone who cares about you, and who you care about. The LAST thing a friend would do is actively poach your guys. She's supposed to be the one who psyches you up before you go out on a date, and then listens to you talk all about it when you return!!

I would look around and see if there are other friends I could start spending more time with. There are enough troubles in the world without actively having a relationship-destroyer in your life!

If she asks why you're withdrawing, explain about the guys. Maybe she feels insecure and she didn't even realize she was doing it! But it's far more likely that she was doing it on purpose, and was using you to make her feel better about herself. Again, NOT friend behavior.

-- from Jenn
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