Overthinking Everything?Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I looked through the pages of this website but could not find anything that pertained to my actual question. I apologize if it is already on here, but I do appreciate your help.
I met this European guy in a class of mine and we started speaking to each other within a month. He will always want to come and sit next to me but lately some other girl always sits next to me, but he sits close enough to me so that we can still communicate and he does listen in on my conversations, even when I'm not talking to him. Whenever there's no one next to me he will sit next to me. Once when I said I think it's cute when guys do this...he said he does that. Anyways, I have really strong feelings for him, but I just can't tell of his feelings and it drives me nuts! I only get to see him once a week, but in that one night we talk so much. Our lab table consists of all girls and when we go on break, it seems as though he's only interested in speaking with me, always facing me even though we're in a group of 4-5 girls. He'll make this eye contact for prolonged periods of time and get into my personal space almost as if he wants to touch me. Sometimes when he talks he'll touch my arm. He's so nice and smiles and cracks jokes and laughs at all of my lame ones. He's offered to do things for me like get books from my car that was parked really far away when I was injured, and even suggested that we could go together to get it if I wanted/able to, but I had said it's ok (I know stupid). he's also pulled out a chair for me. We spoke online a few weeks ago for an hour or so just about random stuff, it was nice. we have a lot in common. He has my phone # but never calls me, I texted him once but he never texted me back. He says he HATES text messages, but wouldn't you text someone back if you liked them? He talks about his ex sometimes but doesn't go into details, but made sure to me that I knew she was his ex, but it srikes a nerve whenever he mentions her. They broke up early this year. When we were chatting online, he sent me a private link to his photo album to look at the pictures...not sure why he did that, his ex was in some of them. maybe so I could see pictures of him? He's teased me a few times to be funny, and it was cute. He had a dinner meeting and had to leave early one day from class but stayed during break instead of leaving and chatted with the group from our lab table until the break was over, and again he was making really intense eye contact to the point where I had to look away a couple of times because I felt like he could tell what I was thinking (the strongest eye contact I've ever made), but when I looked back at him he was still staring. We leave class together, and he's sometimes walking 3 steps ahead of me...what the heck?
I don't know what to think and I can't take it. it's difficult. Is he just being nice? Is it a European thing? All the girls from our table seem to be totally in to him, but I feel like he gives me most of his attention. He's so good looking and I honestly can't picture someone like him liking someone like me (as sad as that is), that is why I'm in a desperation to have a someone I don't know asnwer this question. One of my friends say yes he has affections and another says I have no chance with him. I'm new at this dating thing and I can't tell. Am I overthinking this, is it all in my head? I've never felt like this about anyone. Please help!
Can you please analyze and let me know? I very much appreciate it.
It certainly seems that he likes you. He sits close to you, chats with you, looks deeply in your eyes, and does other nice things. And, it seems that he is not doing this for other girls.
A good way to find out is to ask him out for dinner. If he has a girlfriend, this is where you would find out. Let's hope not.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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