how do I get the girl im afraid to approach?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There's a girl in my physics class that I would like to get to know better and maybe even make her my girlfriend. The only problem is that I'm afraid to make a move. She is one of the more popular girls and I guess you could say she's kind of conceded. She is very pretty and I feel that I don't measure up to asking her out or even speak with her. I'm scared to be rejected by her because im not good enough for her. I am the total opposite of her, I am shy and not very good looking. Is there some special or unique act I could do to her to have her attention? I really would like to persue this girl and do what it takes for her to notice me. I don't talk to her at all and wish to change that. I need help on how to break the ice. How should I ask her out to get to know her better? How do I get the popular girl to notice me and want to be with me?
Take it slowly with her. Make sure you smile, look her in the eyes and say clearly "Hi" plus her name whenever you see her. Sometimes just a smile will do the trick rather than always saying her name. Once you get used to that, you can start some small talk with her like what music she likes, or what her family is like. Have some ideas yourself about those subjects.
Only then can you consider asking her out. You might want to find out from friends whether she already has a boyfriend. That way you won't be surprised if she says "no." Even if she has a boyfriend, do all the things I suggested just for practice. Get in the habit of smiling and saying hi to everyone. A few might ignore you but most will be happy to hear a friendly hello.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com