So confused!!! What should I do?Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have a problem. I am an eighth grader at a 7-12 private school. I seem to have a thing for the guys in the sophomore class. Right now I like this one boy, and I think that I like him more than Iíve ever liked someone. The problem is, I donít exactly know him personally. I know who he is, and he knows who I am (because we have talked through a friend) but thatís pretty much it. I donít know why I like him so much. Heís really cute and I hear from everyone that heís a really nice guy (which he is, because I have spoken to him once online). I have his screen name, but I can never get myself to Instant Message him when he is online (because he doesnít know that I kept it from when we spoke last). My friend keeps telling me to just go for it and talk to him, but I just canít. Whenever I think about him, I get dizzy and nauseous and happy and giggly and I hate constantly feeling like that, especially because I cannot bring myself to do anything about it. I always tell myself that Iím going to talk to him (online first, not in person yet), but I always chicken out. Iíve chickened out when I tried to talk to all the other guys Iíve liked, too. I donít know why I canít do it. I just get extremely nervous and I never know what to do or say. I get afraid that heís going to think Iím just some weird kid and I donít want to get rejected. Iím trying to get myself to talk to him so we can become friends first, but Iím not sure what to do. I need help, because I hate my emotions taking over while I canít do anything about them. Can you help me think of something to say to him and just help me with my problem in general?
Ask what his favorite sport is and then ask him what the rules are and how do you score. Or, ask about his family... does he have siblings, pets, favorite grandmother or grandfather, family vacations. Then tell him about your family.
Everyone is emotionally when they talk with someone they like especially. That's just life. It takes practice and if you don't start now you will have a harder time learning the older you get. So take a deep breath and jump in the pool. You'll find it is more fun than you ever expected.
Good luck! George
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