The Signs are too many
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
For almost 3 years now, I have known this man. I have never actually met him in person, and NO, I did not meet him at dating site. One day, 3 years ago, I was searching through the Internet for images. Then, I saw an image that caught me eye. Something told me that I had to open it up to see it, and I did. I found myself at a website. This was a personal website, and its creator was the one who wrote everything in it. In the website, he talked about many things that actually related to me in a very strange way. As I read the Blog, I realized that I had found what I was looking for. This feeling, I cannot explain. After reading through some of the website, I decided to write to this man. Mind you, I am not in the habit of contacting complete strangers... but there was something about this man that drove me to seek more answers. So, I wrote to him, telling him that I felt like I could relate to his experiences. Sure enough, he wrote back to me in a few days. He sounded so pleasant, answering all the questions I had asked. Now, I am a really shy, doubtful person. But the instant that I wrote to him, I felt like I could share ANYTHING with him. Anyway, we continued to correspond. As time passed, he shared with me things he would not normally share with anybody else. We shared dreams and ideals and concerns. In 2007, there was a period of time in which we did not write to each other. I suffered from depression at the time, and he had anxiety attacks. After we started corresponding again, the depression and the attacks subsided. I felt alive again. We became closer friends after that. He once wrote to me saying that I have helped him more than anyone. He even mentioned me on his website, and made a special section in there just for me. Well, last month, I confessed that I loved him. He did not say that back, but instead thanked me for the "sweet email", and told me that I should not concentrate on him, that I should live for me. Well, why, you might ask? He is 9 years older than me, and I am turning 17 this April. He has been my best friend for a long time. He never left me when I needed help, and he has told me many beautiful things. Do you think he feels the same way I do? (By the way, I can swear that I had a dream about him before I even met him.)
Tell him you will wait until you are 18 and then you want to meet him.
Meanwhile date some local boys so you will have something to compare him with. After all, he seems to be the only male contact you have had. That is an unwise path to take... putting all your eggs in one basket.
Discuss this with him and see what he says. He obviously has some doubts about your age difference.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com