she rejected me, what now?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There's this girl that I've liked for a long time and we've been good friends for a long time as well. For two years she was going out with one of my friends so I didn't do anything about my feelings. Then after waiting two years, they broke up, but a week later I saw her with some other guy but they were not together yet. So I decided to go for it because my feelings for her were so strong, but I didn't go well. As I told her I liked her and expressed my feelings she shot me down. She asked me why I thought that by telling her how I felt would change her mind, she got upset because she's now going out with the new guy. Then she went on telling me that I was not her type and that she didn't see me as more than a friend. When she told me this I was confused because at one point at time she had told me that she would have liked me if I had made a move first when she was going out with her first boyfriend, my friend. So as she shot me down she said that I should have listen to other people telling me that she would never go out with me. She also said that she loved this new guy (after 2 months) and she just wouldn't go out with me. I really don't know why she blew up in my face because I just wanted to let her know how I felt. I still have very strong feelings for this girl and im very down on the fact that she will never be mine. I want to do something to get her to like me but she "loves" someone else. Im a very romantic guy and have given thought to fighting for her love but im afraid that will only make her hate me, but at the same time I don't want to lose her, she's the only girl I can see myself with, she's my dream girl. I don't want her to hate me buti don't know what to do, and I also don't want to lose her to some other guy without giving me a chance. Is there a way I could change her mind about me? Or should I leave her alone for good, and if I do leave her alone, how do I do that because after this im very afraid of rejection . How do I resolve this? How can I make her have a change of heart? How do forget her? Should I confront her about this, and what do I say? I just want to finally be in peace because this affects me everyday, I can't get her out of my head. What should I do, I need peace in my life.
She has found someone new so it is time for you to back off.
Keep being her friend and form a good relationship with her... you never know when it will pay off.
Don't try to change her mind because it will just make her mad. Do what I said and be her friend and she will like you for that.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com