she wants to go from lover to friend
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
i have been dating this woman for seven months now. we get along great,love spending time together, and have amazing sex. then one day out of the blue she says things are moving to fast and we need to slow down. we do for a while but eventually end up back where we left off. so she decides we should just be friends. this turns into friends with benefits not to far down the road. things are going great and then she developes some personal issues in the way of finances, job and school. through all of this i never waver or leave her side i help her with the kids, she has two boys 3 and 4, i help around the house, and i help with the bills even though we are not living together. i decided to push for a little more of a commitment from her and she tells me she is not ready for that kind of relationship with me and that we need to go back to being just friends. i told her that i didn't want to just be her friend and if that is what happens i couldn't continue with all the help. she still insists on us just being friends. do i walk away and risk loosing the women that i think is the most amazing women i have ever known or do i stick it out and hope she comes to her senses before long? i am so confused by all of this. please help!
Seven months isn't a very long time. Perhaps she just needs more time for bonding. My advice is to back off and be a friend. Both your physical needs will probably bring you back together and bloom into something stronger.
If she hasn't already told you, ask her for exact reasons she is not ready for a stronger relationship.
Good Luck! George
-- from George
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