Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I have liked this girl since the day I met her - around 3rd to 4th grade. As I got to know her, I started thinking of her more and more, which made me even more nervous around her. Well, I was a nasty little punk back then, and just to hide my feelings about her, I would be rude and vulgar when she was around - never was I like that anywhere or at any other time. Well, in the summer of when I was going out of 5th and into 6th I found out that she moved several states away. I had heard that she was moving, but that far?! (in my defense, I didn't know she was moving - period - until it was too late.) I honestly haven't met anyone I like as much as I like her. Maybe God just has someone better for me (I'm a Christian and I prayed in school today... Arrest me.)
I read up on your body language and flirting articles, and I found that she may have liked me too. It was actually really obvious, I was just too stubborn in trying keep my secret a secret that I didn't catch the hints.
So in trying to be good enough for her, by myself I "straightened up" (no more talking at all in Sunday School) because I figured she didn't like spazzes. Well in doing that I've become a lot more anti-social and quiet. At least it worked...
Okay, one more thing and I'll be finished (I'm getting writer's block): I'm most likely going to get to see her and get one last shot this October! What I'm asking you is for some steps in getting my confidence up and getting a little more social. I also need to know how to talk to her when I see her again.
Thanks for listening
You are not going to see her again unless you contact her and build a relationship. Right now she has probably forgotten about you.
Ask her friends if they know if she is on FaceBook or if they have her email address. Then gradually make friends with her so you won't feel so nervous when you meet her.
The way to get social is to be social. Every day try to say hi to a new person as you walk past them in the hall. Not a wimpy hi, but a full smile, look 'em in the eyes, clear voiced Hi. Only jerks will refuse to answer so don't worry about them. The point is that you will have a group of people that you feel comfortable saying hi to. This is sure to lead to friendships and that will make you more sociable right there. Keep at it, it isn't easy at first but then it becomes a breeze.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com