How can I get my ex-gf back coz we live far away from each other
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Im 30ys now and my ex-gf is 21ys. this love is hard coz the world not accept it widely so it's really hard for us. we love each other so bad when we lived in Cambodia. we always 1 2 break up coz our love is not accepted ( girl loves girl) but it's a love try to hide from family even family break us we still not break up and promise to be together after 4years and we had lot of sweet memories but just after she moved to Australia. she changes her mind stop loving me anymore. i try to call her to contact her but she seem hates me so much and dont 1 2 talk or contact me anymore, but i try hard to be good 2 her, please her and send her flower across country for valentine every year also her birthday i nver forget. now i live in usa and she lives in australia. last three years C said sth bad 2me and never care about me at all but i still love her so bad and try hard to be nice 2her. and just recently she seem understand my real love 4her and she starts to be nice to me coz C feel sorry that C hurts me and try 2 be nice to me but C cant be with me. she tell me, She just loves me as friend but i feel C loves me but just C care of her parents and other ppl coz it's not normal love coz C said even she still love me but C cant be with me coz she cant. but i dont understand why when we were in Cambodia C can love me why just now she cant?? long disstan can change feeling? be4 she never talk to me at all when i call her and she always change her phone number but now i always call her and email and we talk happily but just these several days. she seem bored with me coz i called her everyday night but she try to be nice but i can know that C bored with me now. what can i do? how can i get her love back? I realy want her to love me back as be4. pls give me advice ! she's still single but C told me she will find one. I feel bad when hear C said that. I know C cares about me coz i can understand the way she said. but i dont understand does she still love me or not. I request her to be ( live ) with her 1month in the same house someday and just my only one wish and she agree to give me that wish. So i think she still care about me.
Your situation is a very bad one. Her family is opposed to your relationship and there is also an age difference. And, a lot of time has passed while she is making new friends where she lives.
You think she still cares about you and that might be true. She has agreed to give you the wish of spending one month together. You should try to make this happen as soon as possible so she doesn't change her mind. Does she have any other relationship? That would make things even harder for you.
Is she in school? Or working? If she is in school, she would not have much time for you. In that case, wait until school summer break to try to live with her. Set realistic goals so that you are not disappointed... if you are disappointed, you will not be so cheerful with her. You will do better if you are positive about your relationship.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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