what should i do?? i am confused
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am attracted to 2 guys at my uni. I saw the first one about a month now and made the first move, i said hi and smile to him whenever i see him. He also do the same and i once saw him alone and went to talk to him asked him what he studies, where he is from, we had a bit of a chat then his friend came and so i left. We still say hi to each other but its so hard he doesnt make any effort to look for me or come over and have a proper chat with me. Last week another guy also from the same university followed me and start chatting up and asked where i am from and what i study. We were both walking the same way we had a bit of chat but he didnt ask my name or my number. I really liked him and went to his department( he is doing petroleum engineering and i am doing business studies) and asked for their time table to know when he has lectures. i told him what i study but he hasnt made any effort to look for me. I saw him today walking with his friend the same place we saw each other the first time and he walked a bit slowly so he was behind his friend and looked at me and smiled. I am really confused and don't want to loose both these guys and am not even sure if they are attracted to me as they don't really make effort to look for me. I am 36 years old and would really want to start a serious relationship with someone my own level and have a family. I always loose the guys whom i think have potential and are right for marriage. They seem interested first but then they loose interest in me before even knowing me well .i feel time is running out and i want to start dating but these guys don't move things forward. Should i still try with them. I don't know what to do. Please help
You should have some business cards made up with your name, address, phone number, department, and email. Whenever you meet a nice guy, give him a copy of your business card. That will impress him that you are someone serious. If he asks, tell him it is part of your business education. At the same time, give him a second card and ask for him to write his phone number and email on it. Then you can give him a call or wait for his call.
You might try harder to find guys than just meeting random guys on campus. Go to clubs, parties, meetings, drama productions, etc. Anywhere you can meet guys.
I wish you very good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com