Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There's a girl at school that I had a crush on. As my feelings for her grew, I started to talk to her and got to know her better. We text messaged each other for a whole summer and I ended up likeing her more. She's a bit shy so it was hard to get her to hang out with me and so I never got the oppertunity. As we started school, I decided to ask her to our school's homecomming dance. I had gotten her a rose and I went on and asked her but her response was a confusing and one I didn't want, she told me that she just wanted to be friends, then soon after she was going out with some other guy. So after that I kind of cut off contact with her and forgot about her. Then lately, she was the one who got back in contact with me and we started to talk again. As we got back in contact, I got those lost feelings for her back and I started to like her again. She started to ask me if I wanted to hang out and I accepted. While we were talking she sent me a lot of mixed signals that made me believe that she wanted something more than friendship this time around, this past valentine she agreed to be my valentine which was shocking because she was so shy with me before. Then one of her friends one day told me that she didn't like me, so I was confused. Then just yesterday I find out that she was holding hands with her ex-boyfriend. I don't know what to think of her, she made it seem that she wanted some thing more than friendship and that she liked me. Now im left with a big headache due to confusion. I still like her, but she's back with her ex. I feel as if there's no closure and that we have unfinished business, I feel that she didn't give me a chance. I don't want a repeat of what happened before, and I would like for her to be my girlfriend but I don't know what to make of this situation? I need help on how to confront her on my feelings for her and about what happened. I need help!
Yes, you are doing the right thing.
Have a talk with her and tell her you are confused. First, is she back with her old boyfriend and also why did her friend say she doesn't like you. Then second, discuss your feelings for her and make sure she understands how you feel. If she doesn't know, you can't blame her for not being closer to you.
Remember she is shy, so be gently when you talk with her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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