what should I do about my feelings for her?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
There's been this girl that I've liked for about 4 years, I haven't told her how I feel about her but I think she has an idea. For 2 years of the 4 that I've known her I lost her because she was going out with someone else and I waited those 2 years for her. I've stayed loyal to her even though she's not my girlfriend, I really like her, it was love at first sight, because I can't seem to get her out of my head, im pretty sure its not a crush, love seems like a strong word but I don't know what else it is that I feel for her. Me and her have been good friends for a while, we know each other very well. So after she broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years I was planning on giving her space to get over it and then make my move, but it seems that while I chose not to make a move and let her recover, she started to flirt and hang out with another guy, and now people say they are going out but they are not serious yet because they don't hold hands yet. I really can't stand to lose her again, I want to tell her how I feel but I feel its too late, I always over analyse the outcomes, and am afraid of her rejection because of my strong feelings for her. Im on the shy side so I need help on what I should do next. Should I let her know how I feel? Should I wait again? Should I "fight" for her love and qonquer her heart with romantic stuff? Some how I love her and I want to make her mine, what should I do?
There is a very old saying: "Faint heart never won fair lady."
Which means if you want her you had better get the guts to tell her you love her and ask her out. If she says no, consider it a temporary set back and try again after a week. Ask her if she has thought it over and changed her mind. You never know... people do change their minds.
So, in answer to your question, yes you should fight for her love.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com