How can I stop being like this?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years. I am a college student and he is out. We have made plans for the future and everything is usually so great. However, recently he has been on this new technology kick. New cars, new phone, new gadgets and that is all i hear about. I act happy for him, but then he keeps talking about it, and as soon as I say anything about getting on a new topic, an arguement has sparked. I dread him getting new things b/c that is all I end up hearing about, and he needs to go all out with it, so I hear about one thing for a few weeks and then another thing for a few weeks. I may be slightly jealous that he can afford to get all of it and I cant, but on the other hand I just wish he could be happy with what he has and stop trying to get the newer things. I just want to hear about something else, and even though I know he is not meaning to do it, it feels like he is rubbing in all the things that I cant have and he can. What to do?!?! I dont want to be jealous, i just dont want an arguement, and I DONT want to hear about it!!
Do you think you can stand to hear him talk about his new toys for the rest of your life? That's what will happen. A new car, stuff for the house, yard equipment, snowblower, kitchen stuff... the list is practically endless.
Make it crystal clear to him that you have had it up to here with listening to him talking with new gadgets (did I mention computers, TV's, other electronics?
This is a serious problem. If you could work out a compromise, that might make things work. Take turns talking about things. But that fix is a long-shot with a guy like him.
He needs to wake up and smell the coffee.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com