In love or just scared?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I don't know if I really love him or just am scared of hurting him. I broke up with him 2 months into our relationship before (to be with someone else), and even after just 2 months of being together he cried, and when we tried to be freinds after he would hint strongly that he still wanted me. after things with the other man didn't work out, we got back together, and even back then I wasn't sure if my feelings for him were sincere, or if I just wanted to feel loved and have a boyfriend again.
He's such a nice guy, he would never hurt me, and I literally feel sick when I think of hurting him, but I just DON'T KNOW if I really love him. I just know I care for him dearly as a friend and don't want him to hate me... SO, should I break up with him, or just try and talk this through first? Or can we even talk this through if it's just me with the problem? This is the longest relationship either of us have been in and I don't know how to handle this.
Advice please? Thanks...
Putting off this decision is only going to make it worse.
You should talk it over with him and explain how you feel. You don't love him so why go through the motions? This is part of growing up... being able to make up your mind and then follow through with it.
It won't be easy, but you'll feel better after.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com