Dating (your opinion on it)
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm thirteen and last summer I had gone into a new age group for this camp. Well they got all of the boys into the cafeteria and we all had this nice, long chat. Not anything really awkward. they were just telling us not to ask out any of the girls and to stay six inches away from them. They never did this before so I assume that they were having problems about this last year or they're just cracking down on this age group and older (but this is beside the point)
I was walking back to the cabin with my counselor and he mentioned that he's never dated a girl before. Why? Simply because he's never met a girl that he would be willing to spend his life with. Now I do believe that it's better to date only a few girls so that you're not so used to breaking from silly little arguments so thet when you're married you won't so easily decide to divorce, but deciding that you would spend your life with someone *before* you even date them?! So then I thought to myself that I should start dating and really get to know someone before I ask her to marry me. But then I found this website and you seem to be suggesting that you should date really good friends so that you don't have relationship issues later. Well, I wanted to know your opinion on why we should date and get some advice on it, but I can tie in what I said about dating one to few people with your best friend suggestions to answer my own question...
Okay, well I would just like to know your opinion on dating anyway.
Dating is a very important part of teenagers' lives. It is a time to get used to interacting with the opposite sex, to understand another person better, and to form opinions about who you want to marry (unless you decide not to marry.)
It is better to make friends with girls and get used to talking with them in a non-romantic way at first. If you both like each other, then you could start to date. Or, another way that works fine is to date someone that you don't know so well at the beginning.
When dating, you should learn to be open, honest, respectful, communicative, affectionate, trusting, and loving. These things do not always come naturally, so pay attention. Also, have FUN ! This is one of the most enjoyable parts of life if you let it be so. If you have a loving background, your future relationships will be even better.
As for your counselor's approach to dating... I disagree. As you said, you need to date a few girls to get experience. Don't get locked into one girl too fast unless she and you agree that you are sincerely and absolutely sure that you are meant for each other... and even then keep your eyes wide open.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com