How to ask a friend out?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I am in quite a dilemma here. I really have a huge crush on this girl I've known for a few years. We're really close friends, but I want to be more. I dont know how she feels because she doesnt open up about stuff like romance. I want to ask her out, but my fear is that she wont want to be friends anymore because of the awkwardness. I base this off the fact that one of my friends asked her out, she didnt have the same feelings and after that never spoke to him again.
The other problem is that in a few months she'll be leaving for a new college in a few months. It's not that far away, but I'm afraid she'll find someone while there and completely forget about me then I wont even have her as a friends. It seems to be a lose-lose situation unless she is the one to open up. How do I deal with this situation??
Take the most gentle approach to this as possible.
Tell her very casually that you have started to have mild feelingss for her and that you don't want to ruin your relationship and so you are telling her before the feelings grew any more.
She will give you some response. If it is negative, then say that you are glad you discussed it with her and you promise it won't be a problem for your friendship.
As far as college.... in Spanish it is said "Que sera sera" or What will be will be." In other words, don't worry about the future too much because you can't really foresee what will happen.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com