Pain and suffering
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have a boyfriend that I am happily with for 2 months. We both met online but we worked it out fine and we only lived 30 minutes apart from each other. He is at a different college and he chose a variey of different subjects while I am at a 6th form studying only a few due to my strong desire of being an actress.
He took that many and he is in a class of lazy people, and he finds it difficult sometimes to work with them because they're that lazy they leave all the work up to him. He seriously needed to complete the course to get into the university he wanted and I understand that.
But what I don't understand is that there was nothing wrong about us meeting up during all that. But since the beginning of last week his friends disowned him cause he wasn't interesting enough. And that was disgraceful and he wasn't being himself. He would sigh, not talk much. He calls me hun but not the usual pet names and he doesn't say 'Love you'. Plus I asked if we could meet up next weekend cause it would be the weekend before my birthday and he said he is very busy over the next few weeks with work. And due to the subjects he took, it's as if it is draining the social life out of him.
In my previous relationship with someone online. he started to be away cause of work and it literraly tore me apart. And work is how my ex fell out of love with me cause I suffered so much.
I am scared that it's going to be the same thing that's going to tate us apart. We have broken up once because of one person screwing my boyfriend up. But for his work to tare us apart? I don't think I want to go through the same pain as the last relationship. What should I do? I seriously don't want to break up with him. Yet I don't want to go through the pain and suffering.
Make it clear to your boyfriend that you have a problem with your relationship. Tell him what you told me. He can't change if he doesn't know what is hurting you. If he really cares about you, he will try to change. If he doesn't try then you know that his feelings aren't very deep and you shouldn't risk your happiness on him. You don't need to go through the pain and suffering you did before.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com