Gut feeling about her?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i met this girl back in 2007 at college. I pretty much liked her from then on. There has always been a spark between us, and there was also the gut feeling with butterflies that something could happen between us. Even her ex bf thought there was something going on, because of the way he looked at me and that went when he found out who she is going out with. We would hang out at college, listenin to her ipod and just chat and have a laugh and she would be like giggling. theres also the time she would be looking over at me in class, and in corridoors she would always look me in the eyes and give me a nice smile. We even talked about going on a date as friends to see if it could ever work between us, she was up for it and even asked if I fancied her I got scared and said no. I'm pretty sure she was gutted and I'm not sure if that ruined my chances forever. :( But then at college she was whispering with some friends and looking at me. One of her friends came up to me when i was with a friend and was just saying such and such has just gave me 10p and saying how nice she is over and over, and then asked me what i thought of her i was to shy to say she would make a nice a great gf so i said she nice. like she was testing if the feeling were the same. i went up to college to see her just before Christmas, it seemed there was something there and she seemed really happy, smiling and laughing when i gave her two hugs.
I missed the chance to ask her, another lad asked her out and they are now going out. She doesn't seem happy at times and she seems scared to chat to other lads now, this is out of caracter because shes a really chatty and friendly girl. I also think shes being controlled from what shes said.
the things I want to know are they the signs of her being interesed in me, and do I wait around for her because I feel she is worth it and my feeling for her are really strong compared to the feeling I've had for girls in the past and the ammount of time I've liked her for.
Soz about it being so long and thank you very much :D
You are too cautious and should work very hard at becoming more honest about your feelings. You missed two obvious chances at letting her know that you fancy her more than usual.
Don't let it happen again. In fact, the next time you have the opportunity, tell her that you realize she has a boyfriend but you want her to know that you like her a lot and that you would want to try a relationship with her. But, tell her you don't want to come between her and her boyfriend so that your comments are for the future.
Shyness is very common, but you MUST overcome it or you will end up with no girl or a girl who is not best for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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