this is ridiculous
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
what is wrong with this picture? about two years ago I met this girl. didn't think much of her at first. Didn't even notice her until one day we discovered that we shared a friend and a bus. We got to talking and before I knew it we were friends. Then we started getting close. She told me everything. about her family, about her friends, about her feelings, everything, and I listened and gave the best advice I could. Then we started getting really close. she would text me everyday, morning, noon, and night. We even had pet names for each other. Then one day I woke up and went to school and looked at her and thought "wow, she's beautiful". here's where things get crazy. She's never been the type to trust people. She's so scared of people hurting her that she never opened up to anyone about how lonely and miserable she was without her beloved cousins and jersey where she used to live until i came along. and as close as we were, she didn't see me as boyfriend material. so I backed off. Then, slowly but surely, she started becoming distant. she stopped texting so much and got angry when I so much as got close to her. she wasn't herself anymore. she wasn't the girl i fell in love with. One day, I just got tired of it and said "look, this is stupid. Why are you treating me like I have the plague?" "There's nothing wrong, don't worry about it." she says and for a long time I believed her. and then one day i was in a particularly bad mood and when all i needed was my best friend to come comfort me, bearing in mind that it was something well in her realm of capability, she chose to ignore me. So now we're through. I refused to try so hard for someone who didn't care about me. it was easy for a while. but then the anger wore off and i started to miss my friend. now she's all i can think about. this is so stupid! how can i care so much about someone who doesn't give a crap about me? how can she love me one minute and be repulsed by me the next? how could she just stop caring about me? did she even care to begin with? I'm confused and miserable and I just want my friend back.
Isn't it possible that you were in love with her and she wasn't in love with you. This might explain why she started drawing back from you. You never said that she was in love with you.
Perhaps this was a misunderstanding. Try to become her friend again and maybe this time she will fall in love with you. But could she be texting with someone else now and you will have to fight for her time.
If you care enough about her, this may be your only chance to get back with her. I think you will feel better about yourself if you try.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com