I fell in love with a married woman....help
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
I just need some simple advice...maybe it's just a kick in the head..............I have been divorced for 7 years.
I fell in love with a married woman and she fell in love with me. We made plans regularly (weekly) to meet and do things we both love to do. It was amazing....like we were made for each other. This lasted 6 months and we became best freinds. But as of a month ago she started feeling quilty. And now she has stated she wants to try to work on her marriage.
I know what love is. I know what right and wrong is. I feel horrible that I allowed myself to fall in love with a woman who is not available. I should have been smarter than that. But it happen and I can't say that given the chance to go back and stop it I would. I really love this woman. I am sick and my chest feels empty. My heart is broken........
What do I do to cope? We do have some communication but I think it's not helping me to heal. She has said that if her marriage doesnt work out I would be the first to know. But I know it's not smart to "wait" for her. But I can't stop thinking about her........
Just tell me some basic methods to cope with this problem. I cry several times a day. My heart is broken and I feel I lost the love of my life.
You love her and want the best for her. This means not emphasizing your relationship with her. Keep the contacts few and not emotional. Tell her you support her efforts to stay with her husband. This will help you and her alike.
Naturally, finding another woman is a great idea but not always easy to do. Join some local activities such as sports, arts, education, etc. and you will find good women. You can try bars too if you are good at that.
A good co-ed sport is volleyball... give it a try. Recreational vollyball is good for your health too and at your age is perfect.
When you cry, don't try to stop it but take the opportunity to say to yourself "Yes, I am crying, but it is good for me to get it out and good for her not to hear about it."
Be realistic as much as you can and that will help too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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