cheating with the man i love with my sexy ex.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, i am 20 years old and i have been with my partner for 3 years now. He is a lovely guy with a big heart and treats me like a queen. He is good looking and my parents love him and everyone thinks i am going to get married to him. I don't even have anything bad to say about him... he is perfect and I love him to bits.
Despite this, I started speaking to my first boyfriend (who i lost my virginity to) again, it had been 5 years since I had seen him. At the time, i felt absolutely nothing for him and thought I was over him. As time progressed, i started to have feelings for him again, naturally i put myself into a HOT FIRE.
He knew I had a man, and the first few times we went bk to his place.. and then we became very intimate and had sex. I know it is my fault for letting it get to that. This has happened twice, but every time I do it I dont feel guilty.
I know that there is no future for me and my ex man because i think that he has characteristics of a PD (personality disorder) or a psychopath. He is lovely when we are together but hes playing up now, which is probabbly why we broke up in the first place. I am falling for him again and his sex IS OFF THE HOOK. that is the main reason i keep going back because no body can satisfy me the way he does.
I dont want to get married to my current boyfriend and have sex with my ex on the sly. At the moment I see my man as a brother more than a man. I dont want to lose him but i want some freedom.
I cant be with my ex because he is a psycho but i dont think i am going to stop having sex with his guy.
I just dont know what to do... i am bewildered and confused. I am not looking for sympathy but I just dont know what to do anymore. I need help.
Pleaseee help me out because my head is a mess and this has been going on for a while it has just been swept under the carpet.
I'm going to suggest that you be completely honest with everyone. Truth is better than lying.
Tell your ex that you are only sleeping with him because he satisfies you more that anyone else. But, that you worry about his mental health and that you would never marry him.
Tell your bf about what's going on and ask his advice. If he dumps you then at least you can live with your conscience.
Your relatives don't have to know the exact details. You can tell them you found someone else but that it didn't work out
None of this will be easy, but it's probably easier than other ways.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com