i think i ruined any chance i had
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i told this guy who is my friend when we first were hanging out together which was about 5 months ago that i really liked him and i kind of went spilled my heart out to him and he said just friends but the only reason i told him was because i thought that maybe he liked me back the same too because he took me to seee a firework show and he said that we were going to meet people there but we never did and it was just me and him there and he kept inviting me other places too and now 5 months later i am afraid that i may have scared him away and that he thinks im crazy or something but yet he stll wants to hang out with me and talk to me about things that go much deeper than regular conversations go and he has a girlfriend now and i don't think it will last that much longer and he recently took my cell from me and read a message i sent to one of my other friends which is a girl and the text said how i still liked him n stuff and he read that then asked me about it and i completely lied and said it wasnt about him because i was sooo scared of rejection again from him because i knew that would happen but he still said were just friends but its like why would he grab my phone read my texts and then ask me about that one he read? also did he have feelings for me before i totally ruined my chnaces by spilling my heart out to him 5 months ago? and if i did is there any way of those feelings that he may have had for me to come back?
As far as you say, he never had strong feelings for you, so you shouldn't be asking if they can come back.
If you want feelings to grow, just continue being his friend and hope that your closeness will result in stronger feeling from him.
Don't hold your feelings in too much, people can always tell when you are hiding something. However, he already knows how you feel so you should not tell him again unless he asks.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com