The Cyber Cafe Chick
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
this happened to me just 6 months ago that this girl from abroad used to come to my cyber cafe and suddenly she stopped coming and it was somethin like love at first sight to me. she used to stare at me a lot and i never felt something like this ever in my life when she used to do stare at me. u know some different kind of feelin.
i didnt know bout her at all and suddenly once when i went to a rave party she was there and was again staring at me. so i thought that it was usual. then around 3 pm she comes to me and tells me that she needs a light to lite up her cigarate so i gave it to her. and she started talking to me in usual ways so till then it was fine wit me.
now slowly slowly we r now very gud and close friends. but somewhere i had a feelin tat she likes me too much.so i didnt know wt to do.i was just going to give my profile to a company so just usually she called me to her home so i went and in talks she saw my profile and she saw that i m 1985 born and just 18 yrs of age and shez 22. and there after slowly slowly i felt that she likes me but not interested in having a relationship.and i dont kno y but i think i love her so much.so plz suggest what should i do??
First off, there's lust at first site, not love at first site :) Love is about really understanding a person, knowing their ups and downs and loving them as a complete person. When you look at someone all you see is their body, and you like their eyes or nose or whatever.
If you guys are friends, the key is to become even better friends and then move it along slowly into a romantic relationship. I have advice on that here -
I wouldn't focus on the "I love her" or "she doesn't want to love me" ideas. I would instead focus on "I like being with her and want to be with her more". If you then start to do that more and more, she'll enjoy being with you, you'll be happy together, and you can let things develop naturally.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com