I want him back, But I don't know if he feels the same way.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My childrens father of seven years was actiong strange one week, we usually have sex every other day and 1 week had gone by and we didnt.Previously (2 years)he was talking to a childhood friend on the phne this was going on for 6 months I finally got tired of it and said it is her or me(he was not aying me any attention.He said its me he will stop talking to her.One month later he said he was leaving to go out of town,to visit his mom.While he was there he never answered any of my calls,come to find out he went to see the girl ,his sister told me by accident( she thought i knew). When he finally did call we argued, he finally came home and 2 weeks later he said he was moving out. He moved to Atlanta georgia we were seperated for 1 year and we have 2 children together. We made up and I was going back and forth to Georgia. I live in New York. He finally asked me to move down there and I was there for three months,one week there was no sex I asked him why he said he was tired,he even started to come home from work even later and later with excuses. He left one night and said he had something to take care of he left a about 10pm and did not return till 5am i asked where he was he said he got pulled over,with other excuses,I decided to look in his phone it was a gut feeling,I did and found a text from a girl he works with it read: do you want to do this at a hotel room or at my house(from a girl. he replied "what ever makes you comfortable baby" I started to cry I awoke him with a fight. He siad I was over reacting.I packed my things and moved out. It has been 2 months and I miss him dearly,we still argue cause I think he is seeing someone else. He has the 2 children for now but I want to go back to him but I dont trust him,initially he wanted me back but i said no so much, now I really do want him back and I dont think he feels the same.Should I ask to be back with him or should I keep on walking?
If you get back together with him, he will still continue to cheat. If you can live with that then you should get back together with him. If you can't live with that then you should stay separated.
Another possibility is that you two could get some marital counseling and see if that helps him understand his cheating so he might stop.
He wants to have his cake and eat it too. You have to decide if you will let him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com