Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
i am a victim of the "nice guy syndrome". I'm sensitive,romantic,and i try my best not to offend the fairer sex. i read somewhere that guys like me don't fair well with women because unlike your standard macho-type guy, you know, the kind of guys that get girls with little effort, we don't show any physical attraction to the opposite sex out of politeness. this makes sense to me, and would also explain why so many people seem to think i'm gay. my issue is, how do i show girls that i'm physically attracted to them without being overbearing or jerkish. more specifically, my friend, who i find myself liking ALOT. how can i show her that i find her attractive without breaking that boundary. shes one of those girls who refuses to believe that she is attractive when she's one of the most beautiful girls i've ever seen. can u help me out?
First off, girls are humans just like you. They like physical activity with boys. They often expect the guys to make the first move. So, if you don't show them you are physically attracted they become confused and put you into the "friends only" category.
In the future, as soon as you feel attracted to a girl and you feel she is at least interested in you you should go with your natural feelings and not worry about touching, hugging, kissing, caressing her. Run your fingers through her hair and whisper sweet things into her ear. This sounds sappy, but that's the way romance begins unless you are into keg parties.
As far as your current friend, you might find it easier to simply bring up your feelings while talking with her. Tell her you are physically attracted to her and want to begin holding her hand, etc. Or you can just take her hand and caress it and not talk about it at all. Whichever seems easier to you.
Remember these things are pleasurable to both the guy and the girl once you get over the nervousness. Focus on the pleasure and don't worry.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com