Will I ever trust again?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I'm having a real hard time trusting, I don't trust anyone. I'm dating this really sweet guy, he tells me he cares about me and that he would like to start a future with me. Sounds great right? But in my mind I'm thinking he's telling other girls the same, and that he's just playing games with me. I'm trying my hardest to trust him because I don't want to loose him. I'm scared of getting hurt. I've been played and I've been the player. How can I put my past in the past and start a clean sheet with this guy. I don't want my stupidity to be the reason why I miss out on finally being happy.
What can I do?
To trust anyone, you have to actually put them in trusting situations.
That means gradually telling them more and more things about yourself and seeing if they react properly. Also, pay attention to whether they keep their word about dates, plans, etc. It would be hard to trust someone who is constantly canceling, postpoing, being late when it comes to dating.
Watch how they interact and talk about their friends and relatives. A good person would have close friends and have good relationships with their relatives and speak nicely of them.
It wouldn't hurt for you to be more trustworthy yourself if that is a problem.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com