what do i do now...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
my ex and i are 19 & we met at our workplace a year ago. we dated for 8 months. everyone close to him made it clear to me that he never cared for anyone the way he cared for me. and he made it clear too, even with the littlest things. he even talked of marriage. so i couldn't believe when after 8 months he cheated on me. he made out with some other girl. he did feel horrible about it and i saw him cry over it. he quit his job at our workplace. he got a new girlfriend a week later and said "i'm not over you, i'm not. but i have to make myself. i can't ever hurt you again. i can't talk to you right now because you need to get over me." he dumped his new gf two weeks later.
since then, it's been about 2 months without a word between us. but people i work with tell me that when they've seen him and asked him why we broke up, he will say "i was just being such a dumbass and i messed up". and something funny is that he asks my 15 year old best friend (who is a boy) to hang out every couple weeks. it's just weird, why would he want to hang out with a 15 year old you know? then last week he texted me and said "hey"... i said "whats up" and he said "oh do you know where rick (my 15 yr old friend) is?" i said "no did you try calling" he said "no i texted him"... so i told him to text him again and he said okay. the funny thing is, he DIDNT text him. not once. so...??? and to top it all off, yesterday i saw him back at my workplace... he not only got his job back, he is working the same position as me!!! did he move on or what???
my question is, with us now working side by side, what do i do? i miss him terribly but i'm scared he moved on, i don't know. should i totally ignore him or act really into him?
How about just talk to him as a regular person.
If you feel like it, tell him you have forgiven him for making out with the other girl so he shouldn't worry about it.
It sounds like he is into you and needs a little encouragement from you... not a super lot because that might overwhelm him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com